Avoir une MAUVAISE VISION des FEMMES et SE PLAINDRE

La vie que j'ai décidé de mener

Je vois ma future femme (qui n'existera surement jamais), telle une déesse qui viendra laver mes péchés et m'aider à redéfinir la réalité de mon etre ; qui me fera gouter à une douceur faisant oublier toute autre chose.

Alors que pour séduire faut voir sa future copine comme une salope que l'on jettera à la poubelle, un punching ball qu'il faut massacrer menacer, et ettouffer toute sa volonté. Paradoxalement c'est avec cette vision que l'on acquiert la douceur des femmes. Une douceur qui n'est jamais appréciée par les tyrans qui l'obtiennent

Plus t'es reconnaissant et aimant envers les femmes moins elles t'aimeront et te considèreront comme un déchet humain.

" Alors que pour séduire faut voir sa future copine comme une salope que l'on jettera à la poubelle, un punching ball qu'il faut massacrer menacer, et ettouffer toute sa volonté. "

Ce sont les fameux bad boy qui font mouiller les femmes quoi.

The Hidden Storm: Why Midlife Transforms Women and Destroys Marriages

When a women approaches her late 30s and early 40s, it's not a graceful transition but a seismic event. It's not subtle or harmless. One day she is the architect of your shared reality, the CEO of your household. The next you come home and the CEO has resigned, she is scrolling instagram or something else at midnight, her thumb moving in a frantic endless scroll. She is suddently obsessed with her skin care routine, involving potions with unpronouncable names, buying clothes 2 sizes too small, messaging old friends she hadn't spoken to in decades, people from her past life when she wasn't a mum or wife. It's a social epidemic, a silent plague, sweeping through. A lot of men see their wife turning into restless, agitated strangers, watching these anchors pull themselves loose from the seabed leaving the ship to drift and found her. Therapists, talk shows, friends, family, they all act as showked as if that went out of nowhere. She didn't become wider, more grounded or more mature. The bedrock on which she built her adult life collapsed into a sinkhole. From her teenage age to her 30s she lived in a world where attention was endless. Compliments from teachers, flirtations from boys, double takes in grocery store aisles, competitive glances from other women, the approving nods from older men. It was like oxygen but didn't even notice half of it. It was because it was the background noise of her existence Her identity was forged in the fire of being seen as the pretty one, the smart, funny or desirable one. Then motherhood and marriage added powerful layers. She was the nurturing one, the capable one, the center of a small universe. But then eventually she looks at herself and sees someone ordinary, a mom, a wife, she sees the faint lines around her eyes that no longer disappear when she stops smilling. She sees the way her skin doesn't snap back the way it used to. She sees a women blending into the wallpaper of her own life.
Invisibility terrifies her on a primal level because her identity, the currency she has traded on for decades was built on being seen, valued, desired. Now she feels like a ghost. The biological betrays her. A women's brain and body turn into a traitrous fifth column around midlife. It's biochemical coup estrogen. The hormone that not only regulate her fertility but also acted as neuroprotectant and mood stabilizer begins its steep unpredictable decline. Progesterone follows. Her entire endocrine system becomes chaotic stock market crashing and spiking without warning. This hormonal shift rewires her nernous system. The pathway that once responded to love, affection and intimacy no longer light up the same way. The small faithful gestures you have been doing for years don't register in her mind as comfort or love but as routine maintenance. Emotional equivalent of taking out the trash. Perhaps necessary but provides no spark or novelty. Her brain chemistry desperate to feel alive adapts to need more intense stimulations just to feel baseline. She begins to crave intensity, novelty, chaos anything that can jolt her system out of its hormonal flatline. And you are the opposite of chaos, stability, predictability, safety, the steady hum of the refrigerator, essential but unnoticeable until it breaks. You become part of the background noice. She is trying to escape, you become invisible. So she goes hunting not malisciously or consciously. At first it starts as an innocent search for a flicker of the old feeling but every compliment from a stranger at the coffee shop becomes a dopamine explosions that echoes for hours. Every slightly flirty tet from a male co worker becomes a hit of pure validation. Every like on a slightly provocative social media post is a tiny victory over the encroaching void. Before you realize she is a junkie for external validation. You, steady supplier of reliable love are no longer a satisfying fix.
Modern culture makes it worse. It's a business model. Open any women magazine, listen to any pop psychology poadcast scroll through the tik tok feeds of the 25 years old influencers she follow and they are all scrceaming the same gospel and a mantra to exploit their vulnerability : you deserve better than that. It's your time. Time for what? To be alone? Start over from scratchs? Reclaim your youth? Biologically impossible but an emotionally potent fantasy. Those aren't motivational slogans for self improvement but psychoactive drugs handed to her by a million smilling faces giving her morale authority to burn her house down metaphorically and in the end quite literally. Every social media scroll is a carefully curated reinforcement of this fantasy. She is bombarded with transformation stories of women who left their dull husbands and now sipping rose on a yatch in the Mediterranean. She doesn't see the crippling alimony payments, the lonely nights, the regret. Reality with its responsabilities and wrinkles doesn't stand a chance against a fantasy promising to turn back time. The friends who push her over the edge. They sell a narrative. They talk about dating, sex the thrill of the chase. These wine soaked sermons always have a villain : men. These women aren't celebrating marriage but rercuiting her for their team and they need her to leave to validate their own choices. Misery loves company so does liberated post marital euphoria. Validation from her peers ibecome more powerful than validation from their man. It becomes with a new, almost religious obsession with the gym. No longer about health but about punishment and redemption. It's about carving away the evidence of time and motherhood repenting for the sin of having aged. Then come the hair and skin treatments. The botox injections freezing her worry lines. She is erasing the map of your shared history from her face. Next the wardrobe shift, buying outfits that belong to her daughter's closet.
She isn't dressing for a body but for a memory of a body. Finally the hours spent perfecting selfie angles in the mirror, contorting her face into expressions of youthful failure. That is not self care but a desperate frantic chase against Time itself. Then the atmosphere of your home shifts, it gets darker and colder. It's when she begins to detach. She means time but these times become longer and longer. She needs space, a word translating to an emotional chasm. A distant look in her eyes that say that she already left him. Her communication becomes a binary trap. She is either picking constant non sensical fights, creating villains out of your most minor flaws so she can cast herself as the victim, justifying her growing resentment or she is eerily unnervingly sweet. This forced sweetnesss is just as damning. It's guilt management of someone hiding a secret life, trying to overcompensate for the betrayal, brewing in her heart. She is either manufacturing reasons to hate you or managing the guilt of already having emotionaly left you. You could have been a perfect husband it wouldn't matter. You are merely a bit player, an obstacle or a piece of furniture in the storm raging inside her. You are the landscape upon which her private war is being fought. It's generally not thirst of male attention that breaks the dam but the specificity of 1 man. The fantasy needs a face, a scent. Maybe a divorced co worker who leans against her cubicle and compliments her new haircut, really sees it. Maybe it's an old frame from college who pops up on facebook. Maybe it's the young tattooed trainer on the gym who puts his hands on her hips to correct her form and tells her she is getting so strong. What matter is that the person becomes the key to the fantasy kingdom. He is the embidiement of the nex and the exciting.
She will swear to you and herself that it's innocent but you will see clear signs when his name come up in conversations with strange frequency, attached to boring anecdotes where he doesn't belong or more tellingly, his name is conspicuously carefully never mentionned at all.She guards her phone like it's nuclear launch codes. She takes it to the bathroom, jumps when a notification pops up. She is now living in 2 worlds, the mundane on with you and the secret thrilling one with him. The cognitive dissonance is tearing her apart and she takes it out on you. When she finally makes the decision to leave, she cannot tell people the truth. She will not tell the truth and say that she panics about getting older and risk to break my family for a cheap thrill. An unbearable psyche shattering admission of vanity and weakness. She will rewrite history. She becoems the author of a new darker version of your marriage. Suddently the marriage becomes bad and was a prison from the beginning. You were always controlling, distant and selfish. She was never happy but playing a role. Every good memory erased or recast as a manipulation. Every anniversary, vacation, love letter you wrote retroactively framed as a performance, a hollow gesture from you or a desperate attempt from her to fake it until she made it. She needs that narrative because admitting that she destroyed something real, good and built over years for the fleeting validation of a stranger or the adrenaline rush of an affair would break her. So to save herself, she invents a past where she was the long suffering victim and you were the problem. In this new story blowing up his family isn't an act of destruction but an act of liberation. The unforgivable tragedy is the collateral damage : the children. She will tell herself that the kid is resilient and want her happy.

" Plus t'es reconnaissant et aimant envers les femmes moins elles t'aimeront et te considèreront comme un déchet humain. "

Pour être plus précis, si elle pense que tu es trop dépendant d'elle, c'est la catastrophe assurée.


Children don't care about their parent's abstract happiness. They care about stability, predictability. Their entire sense of security is built on the foudation of their world remaining the same. When it's destroyed the house isn't only sold but their sense of safety is foreclosed. Years later those kids are in therapy trying to understand why mom needs to feel so young and desired and how it matters more than family. They carry these scars into their own future relationship. This crisis almost always happen when the children is older, no longer a toddler. It's when she has more time to be alone with her thoughts that the void rushes in. In a culture that worships the extraordinary, the novel, the young, the sensational, ordinary feels like a living death. She might come back after her fantasy affair collapse under the weight of reality. But she is left without the home she destroyed. The women who returns isn't your wife anymore but a stranger, a veteran of a war she started. And she is carrying another man's memories. She will continuously compare you to the adrenaline fueled adventure. The comfortable familiar love will feel pale and weak. The gender disparity in midlife crisis ain't the same. If a man enter his 40s and keeps his job, hair, culture tells him he entered in his prime. He is a silver fox distinguised valuable, his value is seen as cumulative, a blend of experience, stability and resources. When it's a women hitting 40s, it's an alarm bell. She is told in several ways that her prime as expired. a shell of her value which was tied to her youth and her beauty. It drives her to desperate and irrational actions. It's a demolition crisis. She will not admit that she chose stranger's attention over her children's stability or that she chose her ego over her family. Instead she must create a noble, socially acceptable story. The world trained by the same cultural script will clap for her bravery.

You cannot stop the wave but you can decide how to stand before it. First see the early signs. If her entire self worth was precariously built on the shifting sands of looks, external attention and novelty, the risk is very high. A women with strong internal sense of value built on character, intellect and purpose is far less susceptible. Secondly stop blaming yourself. You are the battlefield, not the cause of war. Thirdly and most importantly, protect yourself and your children. Hope for the best while preparing for the worst. Get your finances in order, secure your assets documents, your interactions, especially regarding the kids, build a support system of your own because hers will be busy cheering her on. Understand the legal landscape because once she decides to pull the pin, the explosion won't just mean she leaves. In her mind to justify the injustifiable, she must scortch the Earth, destroy your reputation and rewrite your shared story and turn your stability into a weapon against you. There are exceptions, with women aging with profound grace and strenght. They are the pillars. They understand that physical beauty is a fleeting gift, not a lifelong identity. They know that character, loyalty and the shared history built together are what endures. They value being chosen once and kept forever over chosen repeatedly and discarded. They understand the deep quiet truth that excitement is fleeting and often empty. But the act of building something lasting, a family, a history, a legacy, is the most meaningful project a human can undertake. However in this current cultural climate, these women are becoming rarer. Mainstream culture social media and multi billion dollar wellness and self help industry train modern women to chase feelings, not foundations. To equate new with better, to see comfort as boredom, commitment as oppression, stability as a death sentence.
Watch for the low grade panic in her eyes, when she looks in the mirror, watch for the desperate unhealthy nostalgia for her youth, watch for her sudden frantic obsessions with wellness vibes manifesting, and the ultimate red flag : finding herself. Because when the internal detonation finally comes, it will be a world that dissolves, it will destroy the stability of your children, shattering their sense of security for years to come. It will obliterate the years you invested, the sacrifices you made, the future you planned together. It will annihilate the life you thought you were building, revealing it to have been a castle built on the fault line of her evolving identity. Not because she is evil but because she is terrified of being invisible, of aging. In a world that screams at her to stay young. Terrified most of all of being ordinary. And in that all consuming terror, she will sacrifice everything and everyone just to feel special, seen and desired one more time. She will burn down the house to feel the warmth of the flames.


Why Men Aren’t Dating Anymore — And They’re Happier for It

Men are walking away not out of hate but out of exhaustion. They don't fight or argue, simply step back. They stopped fixings things that keep breaking. They realized that caring too much in the wrong place can destroy you. For years men were told to make more money, be more confident, communicate better, dress sharper, love harder, and they did. But it was never enough. Everytime they improved the goalposts moved. Everytime they gave the gratitude disappeared. They would rather be alone, no chaos, no confusion, just peace. Modern love, at least the way it's sold started to feel like a debt you could never pay off. A man could give his time, effort, loyalty, and still be told it's not enough, still compared to someone richer, taller, more exciting, more mysterious. So men stopped playing the game, stopped auditionning for roles they never applied for. stopped chasing people who saw them as replaceable. When they stopped chasing they found clarity. When they stopped prooving they found power and when they stopped dating, they found peace. But men didn't just give up on dating but also on trying to be chosen. When every conversation feels like a test, when every relationship feels like a transaction, when every act of love feels like a performance, the heart stops showing up. It's about realization. They looked at the modern dating market and said no thanks. They would rather be alone than being drained. For the first time since decades, being alone doesn't feel like losing.
It didn't happen overnight. No protest or movement. It happened when men realized effort no longer guaranteed connection. Showing up with good intentions didn't mean anything anymore. Games became the new language of love. Once dating was simple, dinner, laughter, long drives, awkward smiles Now it's interview check list, negociations. A man walked into a dating hoping to meet someone kind. Now he is wondering what test he is about to fail. The constant comments are a constant reminder that she deserves the best. The quiet pressure that being a good man isn't enough unless he is exceptionnal. Men don't plan for dates because last time she wasn't feeling it. He isn't starting conversation because they go nowhere. He stopped trying to impress because it feels like a job interview with no call back. They realized they didn't need to proof their worth to people who couldn't see it.They realize peace isn't found in being loved but in being free from the need for approval. It's evolution. Men started adapting to evolution fatigue. They replaced dates with gym membership, night texts with podcasts, emotional drama with long drives in silence. Peace is addictive once a man experiences it. Chaos feels unbearable. Ask any man in his 30s today and generally he is not afraid of being alone. It's simply men choosing sanity over struggle. They didn't stop dating because they stopped believing in love but because love stopped believing in them.
The disappearing value of men. There was a time when effort meant everything, when showing up mattered, when doing your best counted for something. But somewhere between filtered selfies and highlight reels, effort stopped being enough. Men didn't notice right away. They kept trying, giving thought that by working harder they would be appreciated but instead of being seen, they were measured. A man's kindness became simply energy. His generosity expected his loyalty taken for granted and his silence misinterpreted as weakness. He would open a door, compliment hear and she would roll eyes and call it cringe. He would plan a date and she would post it online without mentioning his name. It's not that appreciation disappeared. It stopped going both ways. Men went from providers to placeholders. Useful until replaced, valuable until criticized, wanted until expected and when men realized their effort didn't hold value anymore, they stopped offering it, learning the hard way. He used to bring flowers, now he brings silence. He used to surprise her with her plans, now he just asks what she wants to do and lets her decide. Because no matter what he chooses it's probably wrong anyway and that pressure to be always right, to always perform, kills something inside a man. Not his ego or pride but spirit. Men don't need luxury validation or endless attention. They just need to feel valued, not for what they can buy but for what they can fix. Not for how tall, funny, confident they are but for who they are when no one is watching. That's the lost part in men, that quiet decency that once made them heros in their own home now makes them invisible.

De toute façon, on peut très bien vivre sans tous ces dramas, n'est ce pas?

Effort has become a transaction. A women will want him to pay first, plan first, apologize first even when she is the one who is wrong. Slowly men began to ask a dangerous question : what's the point? If love is just labor without reward, why giving your best if you get blamed for not giving more?
They stopped caring and hoping not because they stopped loving but because they were tired to proof they were worthed being loved back. You can't break a man by rejecting him. You break him by making his efforts meaningless. You will find some of these men in places where their effort still matter, in their gym, at their work. In their solitude they pour their energy into things that won't betray them, won't ask them to apologize for trying too hard. Peace is the ultimate prize, not love. When you give a man peace, he will move mountains for you. But take it away and he will never come back.
The modern dating illusion. Love used to be about connection. Now it's about competition. Once, people met by chance through a friend at coffee shop, in a quiet moment never expected. There was curiosity, nervousness, excitement. Now it's swiping left and right. Intimacy has been turned into an algorithm, dating became digital window shopping where people are products and everyone is a critic. You aren't talking to a person anymore but to a profile, a curated filtered optimized highlight reel and somewhere in that endless scroll, something human got lost. That eerie feeling that they are not connecting but auditioning, that their value depend on a lightning, angle and a bio. Every man becomes a brand and every women a consumer. Everyone ends up unsatisfied because no matter how many options you have, none of them will feel real. You can match with 500 people, the connection is surface level. You ain't dating, you are collecting attention. Social media turned relationship into status symbol. Love became performance. The caption got longer but the conversations shorter. This is the new economy of affection. A women's attention online multiplies likes, comments, messages from strangers across the world while a men might go weeks without a single message. When attention becomes currency, the ones how get less learn to stop spending it. So they stopped competing for people who saw them as one face in the crowd. Being ignored hurts less than being half noticed. When everything becomes about options commitment starts feeling like a trap. Why choose when one better person might appear tomorrow. Why invest deeply while replacements are one swipe away. Endlesss choice doesn't lead to happiness but to emptiness because when you can't have anyone, you stop valuing everyone. Men saw their friends losing themselves while trying to impress strangers that didn't care. They saw how relationship turned into negociations. Love isn't supposed to be a business deal, a competition.
It's not supposed to be a marketing campaign or a game of who cares less. So out of self respect they quit. Stop chasing people who treat affection like attention and loyalty like weakness. They stopped mistaking availability for for interest. They started learning that solitude isn't punishment but recovery. In a world where everyone is trying to be wanted, very few are trying to be worth wanting. You can't build a relationship on likes, you can't build trust through filters and you can't build love when you are competing with fantasy. Men realized that ad walked away. They stopped chasing illusions and started chasing peace. They stopped trying to be chosen and started choosing themselves. Maybe the modern love story is about one person finding himself.
The peace they found. At first being alone felt strange, the silence was heavy. Empty spaces felt louder than words but then silence started to feel good. The noise stopped, the tension faded, the confusion disappeared. No passive aggressive texts, no constant guessing games, no walking on eggshells trying to say the right thing, wear the right thing, be the right thing. Once a man tastes that kind of peace, he doesn't forget it. He wakes up when he wants, eats when he want, trains, works hard, sleeps deeply. There is no drama waiting for him on his phone, no emotional roller coaster waiting at home. No battles to fight that he didn't start. He learns that silence can be love too, self love. Because peace is more than the absence of chaos. It's the presence of control. Men started finding joy in the simplest things. Cooking their own meals, taking long drives, lifting weights, until the noise in their head goes quiet. Building small habits leading to big peace. They stopped searching someone to make them happy an dstarted becoming the reason they wake up proud. They realized they didn't need a partner to feel complete. They needed purpose, not romance to feel alive. Just direction. When they built those things, love stopped feeling like survival. Men are not ready to trade peace for companionship. They don't want to lose themselves. They don't want to be punished for wanting simplicity, they don't want to keep proving that they are good enough to people who never look in the mirror. They chose solitude not as a retreat but as a foundation. A place where they can build something real. Even if that something is just themselves. You can see it on their faces, that quiet calm, that slow slow confidence of someone who no longer needs validation. Men used to chase excitement. Now they chase peace and peace. It makes them more attractive because a man at peace isn't desperate. He doesn't beg or argue. He doesn't chase. He simply exists, grounded, whole, untouchable.
That energy changes everything. Men who once felt drained now feel alive. Men who once doubted their worth now walk with quiet certainty. Men who once sought approval now protect their boundaries like sacred grounds. They realized that the real freedom isn't being single or taken but being centered. When you reach that point, love isn't something you need but something you choose. Peace is giving men back their power, patience, essence and it taught them that solitude isn't the absence of love but the shape where real love begins.
The double standard. The moment men found peace, society called it a problem. When they chased success they were told they worked too much. When they chased love they were told they weren't ambitious enough. When they stopped chasing altogether they were told they were bitter, broken or afraid. No matter what men do it's wrong. If he speaks up it's toxic. If he stays silent he is economically available. If he leads he is controlling. But somehow the blame stays the same. Men who gave everything, loyalty, effort, consistency, are now told that this is the bare minimum. When they withdraw the world asks where are all the good men gone. They stopped showing up where they weren't wanted. Society celebrates women for putting boundaries but shames men for doing the same. We celebrate women who stay they don't need a man but ridicule who say they are fine alone. It's not equality but hypocrisy dressed as empowerement. Saddest part is that most men aren't even angry about it anymore. They accepted it and navigated the world without expecting fairness. Peace doesn't need approval. The irony is that the more the society tries to shame men, the stronger they get. You can't shame a man who made peace with solitude. You can't manipulate someone who no longer needs validation. You can't control someone who is not afraid to walk away. They are tired of pretending they don't fee pain, tired of carrying the weight quietly while being mocked for their efforts. So they retreat not to escape responsability but to reclaim dignity. They build new lives smaller, simpler, quieter. Men aren't lonely in solitude but in relationship that make them invisible. They would rather be alone in bed than lie next to someone scrolling through options. They would rather have silence than judgement, eating alone than eating with someone that resents them. For that they are labelled damaged, detached, cold. The man who learned to stand alone stop fearing. It's avoiding pain disguised as love.
The new reality. You can't win a game that is rigged against you. Stripped of obligation, stripped of noise, stripped of pretending. They discovered that peace doesn't come from being loved by someone else but from liking the person in the mirror. They realized they could build a life without waiting for permission. A life that didn't depend on being needed, noticed or chosen. Most men didn't want to be kinds, just to be respected. They wanted their loyalty to mean something, their effort to matter, their love to be enough. When the world told them that wasn't enough they stopped asking for approval. They built their own kingdom, made of discipline, silence and purpose. They are rebuilding. They learned that peace doesn't need company, it just needs consistency. They learnt that validation fades but self respect lasts forever. They learned that freedom isn't about escaping people but the version of yourself that was afraid to be alone. Now they walk differently, talk less, react slower, forgive quietly not for others but for themselves. Peace is valued too much to be gambled again. It's not cold, but careful. It's not detached but deliberate. It's not broken, just built different Feminine energy doesn't compete with calmness but compliments it. When that kind of women meets that kind of man, no game, no battle, no ego, just understanding. Both of them have lived through noises and both of them are tired. Maybe this is what love will look like in the future, not chaos designed as passion. But quiet connection built on respect because when 2 people meet who have both found peace on their own, they don't complete each other, they protect each other. That's the kind of love men are open to now.

C'est plus que le "simple bad boy" c'est un fils de pute fini a la pisse qu'il faut etre le niveau d'exigence a augmenté

L'op a beau être un énorme puceau, il a bel et bien dit les termes et ce avec justesse

Je pense pas que c'est le fait d'être un fdp en soit qui les attire.
C'est certaines implications.
En gros, le bad boy qui fait le fdp, il sait qu'il a plusieurs options. Et surtout la femme qui mouille sur lui sait que en définitive, il est impossible à vraiment " contrôler " ou " conquérir "
A l'inverse, l'homme bien qui lui est fidèle. Sa loyauté sera interprété comme un manque d'options de sa part.

Female Behavior in the Final Days of a DECAYING Society

The loaf of bread that cost 1 billion when you passed 1 hour ago, now costed 3 billion of marks. Your entire salary is worthless. It's hyperinflation and the moment Weimar blueprint begins to unfold. When the tangible value of man's work, money, becomes a joke, the entire framework of his value collapses. A man is no longer a provider but a relic. Rules are provided by frantic survivalist impulse. This was quantified by economist Keynes.who studied economy and human behavior. He documented what he called the velocity of life. Old model of a long term pair bond of saving for the future was suicidal. Why marrying the dependable clerk when his life saving couldn't buy a coffee tomorrow. Currency of male value shifted from stability to immediate utility. The officers who could give you a cool, the black marketeer with a tin of ham. The foreigner with hard currency. Women conditionned for millenia to seek security were biologically compelled to seek the opposite. They had to trade up quickly not for a better life in the future but for a meal tonight. It's a Darwinian adaptation to the economic absurdity. When a man's degree is devalued by saturated market, when his salary is eroded by inflation he cannot control, when his traditional role is mocked by the culture, he experiences his own form of hyperinflation. Social currency melts away. Weimar Republic gave the 1920s, an era of unprecedented sexual liberation and artistic modernism. But this was not true renaissance but a fever dream, the carnival before the plague. The cabarets, the open bisexuality, the androgynous fashions, the overt rejections of bourgeois morality, there were not signs of health. They were the symptoms of a culture in its death throws, desperatly trying to feel something as the foundations crumbled.
The historian Otto Friedrich in his seminal work before the Deluge, describes this not as a joy but a collective nervous breakdown. The birth rate plummeted, abortions skyrocketed, marriage became temporary contract easily broken. Why making a child in a nation that has no future or having a man when tomorrow is not even guaranteed? It's withdrawal of long term investment. Energy that would have gone in building family is redirected to the poursuit of transient sensation. The data from this period is stark and revealing. In 1920 they were approximately 10 divorces for every 10 marriages in Berlin. By 1930 that number had more than doubled. It wasn't just about unhappy couples but a systemic unraveling of the pair bond iteslf. A contemporary sociological study of working class women in Berlin led by researcher Franziska Kramer found that over 60% women interviewed admitted having a nuts frin alongside their primary partner or husband. Their justification was not love or even lust. It was Seigeheit, security, security not of home or family but security of the next meal, the next moment of pleasure to numb the overwhelming dread. When you see the celebration of hot girl summers and the decline of family formations, you ain't witnessing progress but the carnival masks, the same psychological script performed on a different stage. Music and technology are different but the underlying human impulse is identical. The frantic, hedonistic flight from a future that feels like a threat. Some men saw the carnival for what it was and refused to wear the mask. They understood that in a world of hysterical feminity and inverted values, the ultimate rebellion was to become, unshakably unapologetically masculine. Not the brutish masculinity of the street brawler but the grounded stoic masculinity of the oak tree in the hurricane. They focused on building a fortress on the self.
These men were training their bodies, studying philosophy and masstering practical skills that had value beyond the collapsing currency. They were becoming the real in a world that was choosing the fake. They found new kind of joy not in external validation of society but internal satisfaction of personal sovereignty. The men response determines if a man is consumed by the fire or forged by it. But this inward turn had a dark and inevitable consequence. The state weaponized women against the men they could no longer control. Last stage of Weimar collapse was the betrayal imperative. It's when the system sensed its most stable elemnts opting out that it triggered a survival mechanism. They weaponized female loyalty. These men who refused to participe to the carnaval has to be recasted as the villains. It was social pattern.

Schopenhauer Exposed the Dark Truth About Women (That Men Still Ignore) https://ytscribe.com/fr/v/Jz8QT8KcXVI

He saw love for what it really is. Not a spiritual bond, not destiny, but a biological trick. A ruthless illusion designed by nature for one purpose, reproduction. When you feel that electric attraction, that obsessive desire, that conviction that she's the one, your brain isn't connecting with her soul, it's calculating. Subconsciously assessing fertility, genetic compatibility, survival advantages, and women, their attraction works the same way, just with different priorities. Schopenhauer wrote, "Love is the ultimate goal of almost all human effort. It is more important than anything else in life." But he didn't mean that romantically. He meant it as a trap, a fleeting chemical high that fades the moment it serves its purpose. How many men have destroyed themselves for a woman who later walked away without a second thought? How many marriages crumble once the passion evaporates? That's not coincidence. It's nature's design. Women don't choose men based on fairness, loyalty, or even logic. They follow an ancient selection program hardwired to seek status, security, and genetic superiority. A man's devotion means nothing if he can't provide these. Women are rarely guided by reason. They are ruled by instinct and emotion. This isn't misogyny. It's observation. Look at dating apps where 80% of women compete for the top 20% of men. Look at divorce courts where commitment is rewarded with financial ruin. Look at history where kings died for mistresses who betrayed them. The pattern doesn't change because the biology doesn't change. Most men believe love is mutual, that if they sacrifice enough, care enough, prove their worth, they'll be rewarded. But Schopenhauer warned, "To be loved, one must not be just, but clever." Women don't fall for nice, they fall for strength. Not just physical, but social, financial, psychological.
This is why the good guy finishes last. Not because he's unworthy, but because he misunderstands the game. He thinks love is earned through service. Women by instinct are drawn to men who don't need to serve. Ever noticed how women lose interest once they've secured a man. How the chase reverses. Schopenhauer called it the tragedy of possession. The thrill isn't in having, it's in conquering. Once the conquest is over, biology moves on. That's why men who cling too hard, who make her the center of their world, inevitably watch her walk away. But here's the twist. This isn't women's fault. It's nature's. And the man who understands this, he stops blaming and starts to strategize. Schopenhauer's lesson is not to hate on women. It's to see them clearly. to recognize that love isn't a fantasy. It's a negotiation. And the man who negotiates from weakness loses every time. It explains why modern men are being outplayed in every arena and how to flip the script. The rules of attraction aren't fair. They aren't logical. And they certainly aren't in your favor. While modern society preaches equality, biology operates on a different set of laws. And the man who ignores this, he's already lost. Here's the brutal reality. Women hold the ultimate leverage in relationships, not because they're cruel, but because nature designed them to be selectors. From the moment puberty hits, a woman's value in the sexual marketplace peaks, while a man's must be built through struggle, status, and survival.

Et forcément l'époque d'aujourd'hui n'arrange rien. N'importe quelle femme potable à des centaines d'options en ligne. Un simple " swipe " et ça suffit. Triste époque c'est sûr.

Women are suited to being the nurses and teachers of our childhood by the very fact that they themselves are childish, frivolous, and short-sighted. He wasn't insulting them. He was highlighting an evolutionary truth. A woman's youth and beauty are her currency, and she instinctively knows how to spend it. Look around. The average man today is drowning in a paradox. He's told to be emotionally vulnerable while women still chase dominance. He's shamed for wanting traditional masculinity while strong. Alphas still dominate dating apps. He's worked to exhaustion, providing in a system that rewards him with divorce courts and paternity tests. Schopenhau warned of this centuries ago. Women are directly fitted for acting as the nurses and teachers of childhood by the fact that they are themselves childish, frivolous, and short-sighted. In a word, they are big children all their lives. But here's where it gets dangerous. Modern women haven't just embraced their power, they've weaponized it. Social media has turned attention into an economy, and the average man is the unpaid laborer. He simps. He orbits. He competes for scraps of validation from women who will never commit to him. Why? Because he's been sold a lie. That devotion alone is enough. Schopenhauer saw the trap long before dating apps and admire me too. Women are systematically trained to be incapable of genuine love. This sounds harsh until you realize what he meant. Female love is conditional. It's tied to utility. A man isn't cherished for who he is, but for what he provides. The moment he stops providing, the love fades. This isn't cynicism, it's survival. Women are hardwired to seek the best possible mate. If a man stagnates, she will resent him. If he falls behind, she will replace him.
And modern society, it cheers her on. Schopenhauer divided men into two categories. Those who serve and those who are served. The beta male exhausts himself trying to prove his worth. The alpha commands worth effortlessly. One begs for loyalty. The other inspires obsession. You see this everywhere. The office worker who sacrifices his health for a promotion, hoping it'll make his wife respect him again. The gym guy who transforms his body only to realize women now want him, but only for sex, not commitment. The simp who spends his paycheck on a girl who will ghost him the second a higher status man appears. These men aren't victims, they're volunteers. But Schopenhauer didn't just diagnose the problem. He revealed the solution. The first rule of survival is to see the world as it is, not as you wish it to be. The man who thrives today isn't the one who clings to outdated romanticism. It's the one who masters the game. And the final truth, the game is rigged, but only if you're playing by the wrong rules. This is where most men give up because the next truth is the hardest to swallow. It's not about women. It's about you. And the moment you face it, everything changes. Schopenhauer uncovered a disturbing truth that modern psychology now confirms. Women don't compete like men. They don't challenge you directly. They don't flex their power where you can see it. Their greatest weapon is invisible, instinctive, and devastatingly effective emotional influence. . While men fight with fists or logic, women wage war through perception. They don't conquer. They manipulate reality itself. Consider this. When a man wants something, he demands it. When a woman wants something, she makes you believe it was your idea. Schopenhauer saw this clearly. Women are adapted to a sedentary life by their lack of physical strength and to the care of children by their natural inclination.
Hence, they live more in the present than men. But this present- moment focus gives them a dangerous advantage. They read micro expressions, tone shifts, and social dynamics with near supernatural accuracy. A man thinks he's having a conversation. A woman is conducting an interrogation. Modern men believe they're in control of their relationships. They're wrong. From the first date to the divorce papers, women guide the interaction through subtle tests. Most men fail without realizing it. The compliance test, how quickly you rearrange your schedule for her. The frame test. Whether you stand your ground or cave to her emotions. The investment test. If you chase more than she does, Schopenhau warned. Women are instinctively crafty and have an innate talent for deception. This isn't evil. It's evolutionary programming. In a world where physical strength didn't secure survival, emotional intelligence became the ultimate currency. The woman who couldn't navigate male psychology didn't pass on her genes. Here's where modern men walk blindly into the trap. They confuse a woman's attention for genuine interest. But Schopenhauer revealed the dark reality. Women are most drawn to men who don't need them. The moment you make a woman your purpose is the moment she loses respect for you. This explains why nice guys finish last. Why marriages crumble after men sacrifice their ambitions. Why women pursue emotionally unavailable men. It's not that women want to be treated poorly. They're biologically wired to seek men of higher value. And nothing destroys perceived value faster than neediness. Every interaction with a woman contains an unspoken power struggle. Most men lose before they realize the battle began. She cries to avoid accountability. She withholds affection to train compliance. She flirts with others to test your confidence. Schopenhau called this the tyranny of the weak.
Women leverage their perceived vulnerability to control stronger adversaries. A man who falls for it becomes a slave. A man who recognizes it, he becomes unstoppable. Schopenhauer s most liberating truth is this. The first step to freedom is seeing the chains. Once you understand female nature isn't personal, it's biological. You stop taking it personally. You stop begging for loyalty and start inspiring it. The final lesson. The most dangerous lies aren't the ones women tell men. They're the ones men tell themselves. Schopenhauer's most devastating revelation wasn't about women. It was about the cold, unflinching reality of human nature itself. After exposing the brutal truths of attraction and power dynamics, he offered something far more valuable. The path to liberation. This isn't about defeating women. It's about transcending the game entirely. Modern men make one fatal error. They believe happiness comes from female validation. Schopenhauer saw through this illusion. The happiness which we receive from ourselves is greater than that which we obtain from our surroundings. The men who thrive aren't those who conquer women, but those who conquer themselves. They develop a purpose so consuming, so intrinsically rewarding that female attention becomes a pleasant bonus rather than a life ordeath necessity. History's most remarkable men, the artists, the inventors, the warriors weren't distracted by the chase. They were too busy building empires. Here are the three pillars of unshakable masculinity. One, economic sovereignty. Schopenhauer warned that money is human happiness in the abstract, not for what it buys, but for the freedom it secures. The man who controls his finances controls his fate.
Two, philosophical depth. Most men live on autopilot. The exceptional man cultivates a mind sharp enough to cut through societal lies. He reads, debates, and thinks for himself. Three, physical mastery. The body isn't just a tool for attraction. It's the vessel of your will. Weakness here breeds weakness everywhere. Here's where Arthur Schopenhauer's wisdom becomes revolutionary. The safest way of not being very miserable is not to expect to be very happy. This isn't pessimism. It's emotional armor. The modern man who stops begging for love, approval, or fairness suddenly finds these things come to him. Why? because he's removed himself from the desperate masses. He's become the prize. The battle between men and women isn't personal. It's biological theater playing out across millennia. The man who wakes up to this stops blaming and starts evolving. He doesn't resent female nature. He adapts to it. He builds a life so compelling that women must either meet his standards or watch from the sidelines. Schopenhauer The choice is yours. Continue chasing illusions or step into your true power. Schopenhauer"s ultimate lesson. We forfeit three/4s of ourselves in order to be like other people. The choice is yours. Continue chasing illusions or step into your true power. The red pill isn't about hating women. It's about loving truth enough to rebuild yourself in its image. This is where your real life begins.

Et plus tu as des options, moins tu es capable d'être en paix avec ce que tu as déjà. Mécanisme assez simpliste et pourtant.
Lacan's UNSETTLING Theory on Why Women Lack a Moral Compass

The forbidden psychoanalytic theories of Jacques Lacan to expose the unsettling architectural flaw of the feminine psyche. His psychological project was a return to Freud but through unforgiving lens of structural linguistic and philosophy. He dealt in the cold, hard architecture of human mind. Lacan's supergo is more sinister and paradoxical entity. It's not your conscience but your terrifying immoral compulsion to break the law for the sake of breaking the law. It's formed through our entry into the symbolic order, the network of language, culture, law. This entry requires sacrifice of primal incestuous desire for his mother. It's acceptance of the law of the father, fundamental prohibition that structures all human society. This acceptance, this castration in the symbolic sense is what creates the neurotic subject and it's a process Lacan argue is different and incomplete in women. Lacan's concept of not all or la femme n'existe pas, the women doesn't exist. It's a devastating structural claim. Lacan posits that women is not whole in the symbolic order, doesn't fully submit to the phallic function. Organizing principle of language, law and logic. Becacuse of this different relationship to the primordial law her formation is different. her superego doesn't form in the same way. The men fully immerged in the phallic function has a superego that while savage is at least structured by the law it seeks to transgress. It has a reference point. But women, existing in the real of not all, has a superego fundamentally unstructured by the same law.
It's not tempered by the symbolic of father's prohibition. The result isn't a lack of morality but a morality that is utterly alien, fluid and contingent. Morality not on fixed internal compass but on shifting currents of relationship, context, and on what Lacan calls the other. Her desire is the desire of the other. Her sense of right and wrong isn't internal unwavering code but often a reflection of what will maintain a key relationship, secure a social position or align the desire of whoever sway over her in that moment. it's why women tend to possess rigid moral code one day and then act in direct contradiction to it the next with no apparent cognitive dissonance. Dissonance doesn't exist because the code itself wasn't an internal fundational truth but a temporary outfit worn for specific social situation. You can think of a women talking about traditional values and commitment only to monkey branch to a new partner the instant a higher value option. No guilt, just a transition to a new narrative. where her actions are justified by the new context. She doesn't live it as a morale failure because her morality wasn't about abstract principle of loyalty but about what loyalty did for her in that previous social arrangement. Arrangement changed so morality shifted. Consider the aftermath of a major society collapse. In Soviet gulag system as documented by Solzhenitsyn and Shalimov a brutal hierarchy emerged. The most valuable bread but information and protection. It was common for a female prisoner whose husband has been arrested and sentenced alongside her to become the informant or the wife of a camp guard or official. She would trade sexual favors and informations for a slightly warmer place to sleep, an extra ration of gruel or protection from the worst labor details.
The information given would often lead to the death of her former husband or male prisoners. It's betrayal from our perspective but from Lacan's perspective, no. It was brutal pragmatism. The old symbolic order, the law of the marriage of till death us do part had collapsed. In that vacuum her morality reconfigured itself around a new horrifyingly pragmatic law, the law of survival. Her sense of right and wrong became contingent on the new pwoerful other, the camp authority. Her desire became the desire of that other, to maintain control, root out dissent, to be served. She integrated into this new symbolic network because her integration in the old one was never total to begin with. Her morality was always contextual and adaptative, not absolute. We see a modern soft version of this every day everywhere. Corporate landscape is perfect example. When a high value male producer is accused by a femal employee the morality of HR apparatus shifts. THe principle innocent until proven guilty doesn't apply. They are replaced by a brutal imperative : mitigate legal risk, protect comnay brand and eppease social narrative even if this means ruining the man's career and reputation. It's morality of social cohesion and risk management, not of abstract truth. She will think she did the right thing because her right thing is defined by desires and demands of the corporate other. It's the feminine superego at work in the modern world. Lacan doesn't see women as hysteric in the dismissive sense but saw hysteria as sophisticated albeit tragic strategy for dealing with this fundamental, not all, existence. The hysteric's entire modus operandi is to constantly question the desire of the other. What I am to you? What do you want from me? She constructs her identity and by extension her fluctuating morality based on the answer to that question.
She adopts beliefs, values and causes not out of genuine convictions but to become the object of desire for a powerful other, man, political movement, social circle. Her moral outrage is often a performance, a test for the other. She is a mirror and a mirror has no moral compass of its own. It reflects what is placed before it. This is why you can see a women passionatly champion a cause on social media only to drop it the moment it becomess socially inconvenient or a new trend emerges. No betrayal beacuse no core belief to betray. It was part of accessory for a performance for a particular other at a particular time. The joy she displayed in her performance was real, just like she shock at opposition. But it was all real in the way an actor's emotion on stage is real : contextual, intense and transient, fading when the curtain fall and a new role must be prepared. This fluidity of both source of her power and danger. It allows for empathy and social adaptation, beneficial for the cohesion od the tribe but remove the structures of a functioning tribe, remove the strong symbolic law of the father and that fluidity becomes a force of chaos and betrayal. it becomes amoral pragmatism that can justify any action as long as it serves the relational context of the moment. It's built on shifting foundation, one sensitive to winds of social power and personal advantage. What is the drive force governing this fluid contextual morality is not an internal moral compass? This force toppled empires, sparked wars and dictated the rise and fall of civilizations.
Lacan didn't just observe. it was a psychological and psychoanalytic conclusion. Force is desire itself. But not desire as a simple want or passing whim. It's insatiable metaphysical lack that can never be filled, a constant aching want that is the very core of the subject. For the women whose being is structured by the not all, this desire is not directed toward a single definable object. It's a perpetual motion machine of want and it's primarly fuel. It's ultimate object is the total unwavering and validation of her own existence. Her sense of truth, her reality, is contingent on being perceived as valuable, desirable and necessary by the external other. Her moral framework or lack thereof becomes a sophisticated tool in the service of this ultimate goal. It's morality of effect, not of principle. An action is seen as good if it leads to validation and bad if it leads to withdrawal. It's why her actions can be inconsistent to the male mind which is structured to seek consistency with internalized law. She isn't inconsistent but consistent in the poursuit of a different master. Existential need to have her worth confirmed by the world outside herself. The seamingless shifting of allegiances. Imagine a man meeting a women who is kind and believes in loyalty. He provides, protects, is faithful. He assumes that her moral internal code mirrors his own. Then he hits a period of failure. The stress changes his demeanor. He is less confident and less provider in the energetic sense. He might become more vulnerable, seeking support. At this moment he becomes invisible to her. He is no longer a source of validation but a drain on it. Her behavior shifts, becomes cold, critical distant then meets another man who possesses social proof, confidence, resources that she now requires to feel validated. Old loyalty vanishes without a trace. No grand internal battle nor agonizing over a moral dilemma. It's simple pragmatic recalibration.

Exactement, quand tu es faible on parle de morale mais en réalité c'est juste l'instinct de la femme qui choisit l'homme le plus fort indépendamment de toute morale qui n'a pas de valeur dans la nature

Mais c'est pas une mauvaise nouvelle, ça veut que cela rendrait une femme dépassant cet instinct primaire absolument exceptionnelle et magnifique

D'ailleurs Schopenhauer, Nietzsche et même Aristote avaient fait des analyses intéressants sur le psyché féminin.

What is good is now whatever maintains a connection to this new source of validation. The bad is whatever ties her to the old failed source. For her it wasn't betrayal but an upgrade, an existential maintenance. her desire became the desire of the new other. Her morality shifted to serve that new desire. Doing so she desired to be the desired object of that other. Her ethical universel orbits this star. In 1940 after the fall of France the collaboration was faciliated by women operating on this precise principle of validation seeking. As France collapsed, the symbolic order, the law of the father shattered. The German regime was the other and it was confident, victorious, exuded an aura of irresistible strenght. Countless of documented accounts, photographs and testimonies of french women who didn't just merely collaborate but sought out the validation of German soldiers. They became their lovers, their informants, their hosts. From a fixexd moral perspective this is treason. But from feminine psyche perspective it was pragmatic realignement of desire. The old french male order had been proven weak, failing to provide protectino and to project strenght. It could no longer offer validation because its own values had collapsed. Being desired by the new other was the highest form of validation available. Their morality became the morality of the victors, their sense of right defined by the new law of the land, of the powerful. Exceptions exist of course and they are celebrated because they are the exceptions that prove the rule. Modern world would see this crave of validation as narcissism but Lacan sees it as a logical outcome of the not all structure. Social media is a machine for the external validation of the feminine psyche. Each like, comment, share is a tiny droplet of water on the parched desert of her existential lack. It's constant stream of evidence that she exists, that she is desired, that she as value.

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Analyses que je condamne en avance bien entendu.

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You can feel it before you can name it. The way she doesn't turn toward you when you walk into the room. The way her body stiffens slightly when you touch her arm. The way her laughter, once easy, once constant, now feels reserved, as if she's rationing it. You tell yourself it's stress, work, exhaustion, hormones, anything but what you know deep down. She doesn't want you anymore. Not hate, not anger, just absence. You lie beside her in bed, separated by a few inches that feel like miles. You remember how it used to be. How the air between you once felt electric. How her touch once made you feel seen. Now it's cold. Now it's quiet. And the silence says more than words ever could. You try to rationalize it. It happens to everyone. You tell yourself. All marriages cool down. But what's between you isn't cooling. It's rotting. It's the slow decay of something that used to feel alive. You reach for her and she doesn't pull away. But she doesn't lean in either. That's how you know it's worse than anger. She's compliant, not connected. She'll go through the motions because it's easier than explaining the truth. Her desire died and she doesn't even remember when. You look at her across the table one night and realize you're strangers with history. The love is there somewhere, buried under years of routine and noise. But the spark, the heat, the pull, the hunger, it's gone. And here's the part that cuts deepest. She didn't choose for it to die. Desire doesn't vanish by choice. It fades by erosion, by all the small things left unsaid. by the little moments you didn't think mattered, by the familiarity that replaced curiosity. You still love her, maybe more now than before. But love isn't the same as wanting. Love is safe. Desire is risk. And she doesn't feel risk with you anymore.
She feels security. And security kills the very thing that built the attraction in the first place. You can't remember the last time she looked at you like she used to. That quiet hunger in her eyes, that glow of wanting. Now, when she looks at you, it's soft, kind, like the way you look at a photograph of something you've already lost. You think about saying something, asking her, reaching for the truth, but you don't. Because if you do, she might tell you the one thing you can't unhehere, that she still loves you, but she doesn't want you. And once that truth is spoken, you can never go back to pretending you didn't already feel it. The death. Desire never dies loudly. It doesn't explode. It evaporates slowly, invisibly, until one day it's gone, and you can't remember the last time it was there. She doesn't wake up and decide she no longer wants you. It happens piece by piece, moment by moment, a slow unthreading of connection that neither of you notice until you're already living in the aftermath. It might have started years ago. The first time she opened up to you and you brushed her off without meaning to. The first time she reached out for closeness and you were too tired. The first time she shared something vulnerable and you didn't understand the weight of it. Each time something tiny broke and the breaks added up, you wouldn't have seen it happening. You were living life, working, fixing, providing, doing what you thought a man should do. But what she wanted wasn't survival. She wanted aliveness. She wanted mystery, tension, surprise. She wanted to still see the man who once made her feel something uncontrollable.
But over time, you stopped being that man. Not because you changed for the worse, but because she learned you too well. She memorized your habits, your moods, your patterns. There was nothing left to discover. And when curiosity dies, attraction suffocates with it. She'll tell herself this is normal. That long-term relationships aren't supposed to feel wild anymore. She'll convince herself that love is enough. But her body knows the difference. Her body knows what it feels like to be wanted, and it knows when that feeling's gone. She still loves you, maybe even more deeply now. But love isn't what makes her pulse quicken. It isn't what makes her reach for you in the dark. Love comforts. Desire disrupts. And she's grown addicted to comfort. So the relationship settles into something still, something calm, something manageable. And in that stillness, desire suffocates. She doesn't even realize it's dying. She just feels less. Less passion, less joy, less urgency to touch, to connect, to reach out. And by the time she notices the emptiness, she's already learned how to live with it. You'll sense it, of course. You'll feel the temperature drop in the room when she looks at you. You'll feel her body tense slightly when you touch her shoulder. You'll ask if something's wrong, and she'll say, "No, I'm just tired." But it's not tiredness, it's loss. The version of her who used to ache for you is gone. She didn't leave in anger. She didn't make a scene. She just faded quietly into the background of your shared life. And when you finally notice, it'll already be too late. Because you can't save something that dies without a sound. You can't fix what you never saw breaking. That's how desire ends. Not in fire, but in silence.
The drift. The drift begins the moment she realizes she can go a day without reaching for you. It's not dramatic. It's subtle. She just stops needing you. She doesn't mean to pull away. It's instinct. People always move toward what feels alive. And right now you don't. You feel safe, predictable, familiar. The very things she once found comforting now feel heavy. You notice her laughter changing. It's brighter when she's around others. It's effortless when she's on the phone or with friends or lost in her own world. But when she's with you, it's quiet, filtered, careful. You start realizing she no longer tells you everything. You used to be her first thought when something exciting happened. Now you're an afterthought, a summary at the end of her day. She shares things with others first because somewhere along the line, she learned that you don't really listen anymore. It's not that you don't care, you do. But your caring comes through logic, not empathy. You try to solve things. You try to fix her mood instead of feeling it with her. And without realizing it, you taught her that she has to hide certain parts of herself to keep the peace. So she does. She hides. She filters her words. She chooses silence over vulnerability. routine over risk. She becomes polite with you. And polite is what desire sounds like when it's gone. You think she's being distant, but really she's protecting herself from disappointment. Every time she opened up and felt unseen, she built another wall, and now she lives behind them, smiling, functioning, pretending, but no longer inviting you in. You start noticing her independence. At first, you admire it. You tell yourself it's a good thing, but then you realize she's building a life that doesn't need you to feel complete.
And that realization stings because once someone learns how to live without you emotionally, it's only a matter of time before they stop needing you physically. She still loves you in her way, but she no longer turns to you for comfort. You're not her home anymore. You're her habit. You share space, but not energy. You share time, but not connection. You might not even notice the drift at first because it doesn't look like chaos. It looks like calm. Like a couple that just gets along. But that calm isn't love. It's quiet surrender. She's not angry. She's just done trying to make you see her. She's decided to save her energy. She'll still smile. She'll still say love you. But inside, she's already gone. And here's the truth you don't want to face. Once a woman gets used to feeling alone beside you, she'll never crave closeness again. That's the drift. Not separation, but adjustment. Not hatred, but acceptance. The moment she learns to live without your presence while still standing right next to you. The distance. There comes a moment when you can feel it, not just sense it. The distance, it's no longer subtle or hidden behind politeness. It's visible in everything she does. She's still there in the same bed, under the same roof, but the atmosphere has changed. You used to breathe the same air. Now it feels like she's holding hers. She's near but unreachable. Her presence has become absence with a heartbeat. You start noticing the little things. How she doesn't make eye contact when you speak. How her answers have become shorter, quieter. How she scrolls through her phone at dinner without even realizing you're watching. It's not defiance, it's escape. You reach for her hand while walking through the store and she lets you hold it, but her fingers don't move. They stay limp, polite, like she's letting you hold on out of mercy, not want. You still try. You ask her what's wrong. You plan dinners, trips, conversations.

Attend de lire celles de Otto Weininger dans Sexe et Caractère

"Alors que pour séduire faut voir sa future copine comme une salope que l'on jettera à la poubelle"

Tu as effectivement une image complètement erronée et matrixée des femmes. La plupart des femmes ne sont pas comme ça faut arrêter. Toi tu parles de puputes qui sont effectivement très visibles partout sur internet entre les reseaux sociaux et le porn. Mais ce n’est pas représentatif de la réalité. Les femmes normales et saines d’esprit ne veulent pas ça, et forcément on les voit beaucoup moins sur internet, car elles ne montrent pas leurs atouts feminins.

C’est fou les degats d’internet et du porn.

Je condamne fermement.

Why The Sexual Revolution Was Worse Than You Thought

Sexual morality is one of the biggest aspect of any civilization. For over 1 000 years, western nations or kingdoms lived by christian sexual morality. Christianity especially catholicism teaches that sexuality is meant for marriage and violating this standard is a sin. The supposedly liberal attitude from Greeks and Romans are exaggerated. Although a bit different from the Christian morality they still believed in some sexual standard. The sexual world in western nations only came relatively recently under regimes that we still live under. In the US at the beginning of 20th century, 95% of the country identified as christian and abortion, pornography and sodomy were outlawed. Divorce and illegitimacy were more rare although legal. The progressive moment of the time was concerned about strenghtening the country's moral value. This was known as anti vice. In the 2020s today a majority of American have developed libertarian values on moral and sexual issues. Many of the vices once illegal are now allowed. Casual sex, abortion and divorce are common. Christianity has been replaced by a widespread sense of nihilism, being the believe that morality doesn't exist and values doesn't matter. Despite this a lot of people know deep down that something is wrong. Polls show that the majority think that the morals has gotten worse. Sexual revolution movement came in the 1950s and the 1960s. It sought to change American modest moral values to an unrestricted free for all. An America of strong families was turned into a mess.
Christian sexuality immorality has rules that are not liberal. The Bible contains several passages containing sexual immorality that they condemn : sodomy, bestiality, adultery, crossdressing and more. All are condemned in various biblical passages. In the book of Matthew, Jesus said that marriage is between on man and one women for life. The Christian churches develop doctrines that reflected this modern sexual morality. As such modesty and chastity are christian virtues while lust and hedonism are sins. Satan isn't only a manipulator but a tempter who offers short term pleasure at the expense of their eternal soul. Christianity deeped and fully explained the concept of natural law developed by the ancient Greek philosophers. By this account sexual morality wasn't a matter of arbitrary, or changing value but of objective truth. Modesty and chastity are virtues because they push man towards the full realization of his nature and finality. There is a natural order for human sexuality ordained by God and it's correct for humans to obey it. This is the basis of much of the Catholic morale philosophy. All of this is why Christians oppose sexual liberation. America began as an english colony so inherited the Protestant direction that England had been going down since King Henri VII. Originally it was a Catholic nation but they broke from the churches under the reigns of King Henry VII and Elizabeth I in the 1500s. Therefor in the young US Protestantism was the dominant religion. However Catholics were tolerated in certain parts of the country. Religious views ot eh American Founding Fathers were complicated. Most came from Protestant background and believed that religion was critical to American society. Some like Jefferson or Madison were more deistic. They picked what parts of God and the Bible they believed in based on what they deemed retional. This was contrasted by founders such as Samuel Adams and John Jay who is president of American Bible Society.
The American founding fathers were also influenced by the ideas of the so called enlightenment and the philosophy of John Locke. Locke emphasized what he called the natural rights granted by God that could be determined through reason alone. He also advocated the indifference of the state toward religion. This was very different from traditional governing philosophy where the state tended to work with the church towards religious objectives. founders adopted many of Locke's ideas and what they created became known as the American liberalism. Since founders were of various Christian denominations and some deists, they wrote religious tolerance into the US Constitution. Some of the founders wanted a vague form of Christianity to be made the official religion of the US government. The proposal lost out. The founders were not religiously Orthodox but they were not hardcore secularists who believed taht religion should be banned from public life like modern atheists do. John Adams famously said : " Our Constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate for the government of any other. " Despite founding fathers admiring religion, the Constitution and the American liberalism put vague ideas of liberty and equality above all else, even God. Founding ideology also never resolved the conflict between the objective morality and the natural law vs moral relativism and apathy. All of this opened the door for long term negative consequence for American morality. American federal judge and author Robert Bork wrote : " The signers of the Declaration of Independance took the moral order that they inherited for granted. It did not occur to them that the document's rethorical flourishes might one day become dangerous if that morale order weakened. "
America's lack of official religious direction combined with it being founded on vague notions of liberty would go on to be exploited heavily for so called sexual liberation, far beyond the intention of any of the founders. Colonial America had anti obscenity laws including laws against buggery. After, this offense carried severe penalties and no founding father expressed a problem with it. All of this notwithstanding Christianity remained the dominant religion of the US through the 1 700s, 1 800s and early 1 900s, most of this was Protestant denominations but Catholics didn't make up an important minority. As time went on, their important would increase at time. In fact by 1 900, Catholicisme was the single largest church within the USA. By the early 1900s the USA was a global superpower. Government still banned things like porn, abortion, sodomy, etc... Devout Christian like Anthony Comstock used their government position to fight hard against vice and degeneracy. Comstock laws were a series of laws that banned transport of obscene material through the mail and they were strictly enforced. Liberty in America was not seen to do whatever you wanted. To protect liberty, hedonism had to be restrained. Positive freedom is view that true freedom comes from being allowed to pursue virtue. negative freedom asserts that freedom comes from lac of personal restraints. Despite this there were cracks in the American foundation freedom. Freedom of religion meant that Christianity despite its power had no official, legal position as part of the government. This left openings for anti Christian actors to enter and subvert the state. At the same time affluence and decadence began to make American complacent and materialistic. In the 1920s, President Calvin Coolidge warned the country : " We must not sink into pagan materialism. We must cultivate the reverence which our fathers had for the things that are holy. " July 4th speech in 1926.Like most of educated Americans back then he believed morality was vital. People start thinking that material goods are a valid replacement for the divine and that technology is a valid replacement for God. This thinking becomes more common with societal affluence. To make things worse, WW1 created a sense of nihilism and sadness that spread across the whole Western World. European civilization and history started to be called into question.Still today most of the countries who fought WW1 never had the power and influence they had prior to it. Pope Benedict the 15th referred WW1 as the suicide of civilized Europe. The forces hostile to European civilization saw this as their opening to start seizing power. It's no coincidence that after WW1, marxism and modern art grew vastly in popularity. At the same time American protestant elites began losing their faith and turn their attention to moneymaking. They began to adopt early aspects of the sexual revolution. Anglicanism for example approved birth control as morally valid in 1930. By the 1950s most protestants became pro birth control. Many Christians denominations became about being nice, being tolerant rather than any serious moral value. When your goal is simply to be nice it's easy to be manipulated and walked over. Nice and good are not the same thing. Jesus drove moneychangers from the temple after all. Being good doesn't mean someone has to be nice or tolerant toward everything. On top of this, Jewish immigrants from Eastern Europe. also came to the US and began to promote their own morality which was often directly at oods with the majority of Christian morality. Jewish sources note how they became prominent in Hollywood and the media industry. This would have a profound impact on America. American Jews tended to be more permissive on all issues related to sex than the general population. But there was some backlash to the slipping of American standard.